Season 2 Episode 8

This system limited my characters so I will have to shorten this. Painful topic because death is reality. However the death of someone who we really love is especially difficult. I really appreciate the vulnerability of the host with sharing while in the early stage of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. After the “2 week time frame” we are expected to get on with life and function as normal. Great insight into diving deep into the emotional aspect especially from the point of view of an adult male.
Now here’s where I differ - any homegoing celebration, funeral etc. —> is for the living. My father died 5 months ago. Any celebrations or funeral we had was for us - not him-he is deceased. If he did not leave final directions or funds to proceed forward with what to do with his body, belongings or debts - then the decision fell on the family or next of kin. I could choose to let the county dispose of his body, cremation or simply not do anything at all and walk away from it all (like some family members do at the Casualty Affairs Office). The debts of the deceased is THEIR debt. Not the next of kin’s, not the family. If they have not paid a car note, house note, insurance bill or have mounting hospital bills - the next of kin does not have to pay for it out of their own funds. Yes, if there is an estate the funds should come out of the estate but if there are $0 - then $0 is what they get. I have lost inherited property to the county due to back taxes (third party issue but I’ll stay on target), buried 3 close relatives since November (one with no plans or funds). Bottom line, it’s frustrating, it’s annoying, it’s disappointing but their failure to plan does not become your debt. My dad did not have flowers on his coffin, printed program or food for family but he’ still deceased. My other relative died without plans or funds but had a gorgeous family spray on the coffin, the most beautiful printed program and a lovely repass but were those really needed? Those are bills we choose to incur.
All his other stuff (debts, failure to plan) is his shortcoming not yours. If a creditor is calling you for someone else, give the number of the cemetary where they are buried or his cell # - that debt belongs to the estate.

The anger stage is appropriate - be as angry as you want -yell, cry, have an all out fight with your loved one - you ARE grieving